i need a advice ... im in relationship but my anxiety and what ifs attacking

[MzKittyKath]

Pistanthrophobia is the fear of trusting people due to bad experiences with prior lovers. It's such a natural response to being hurt, but if you want to be in a happy, healthy relationship again, then you need to overcome it.


im ready to take it risk but the phobia and anxiety attacking because in past relationship i almost married but the groom ghosted me in wedding day i already move on
i really love this person my new bf idk this feeling like what ifs idk what to do​

 

[OutroTearTheFirst]

Is therapy an option for you? I know it isn’t cheap so it’s not always an option, but if money isn’t an issue maybe try it? Hope it all works out for you.

 

[rosie]

Have you thought about talking to your current partner? I know that communication is one of the best ways of gaining trust in someone. It's hard to increase your trust for someone else independently, because then it becomes a matter of trying to change your thoughts. If you have someone to talk to, it may help make things a bit clearer for you

 

[Tommie]

I agree with rosie in that you should talk to your current boyfriend and express how you feel. If that makes you a bit uncomfortable then try talking to somebody who you trust and is mature about how you're feeling.​

 

[Danee]

If its serious relationship and its getting really bad so normal talking wont help, go to psychologist. It actually really helped me. And I was in phase when I cried everytime my bf was out of our apartment alone because I was full of what ifs.